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Christmas present pressure for Mums & Dads - Nicki Freshwater


With less than 10 days left until the big day, what should be time spent enjoying festive activities with family and friends, can often be filled with stress, parent guilt and self doubt. Whether you’re a millionaire or only have two pennies to rub together, the pressure of buying Christmas presents is hard to avoid, and nothing tops the pressure of a parent buying for their children:


  • Have I spent enough?
  • Did I buy them enough?
  • Can we afford it?
  • Will it arrive on time?


It can seem like everyone out there is buying the ‘must have’ toy for their child, and your kids are going to miss out or have an awful Christmas if they don’t have 15 thousand presents to open on the big day. 


I can promise you that they won’t. 


No, your baby won’t remember the number of presents you carefully wrapped and then unwrapped for them on their first Christmas Day.


Nor will your 2 year old judge you on anything other than the ripping quality of the wrapping paper you use. 


As your children get older and do understand about Christmas, the things they will remember are that everyone was there. The games played, the food eaten and the uncle snoring on the sofa. That Aunt Susan had too many sprouts, that Uncle Derek stood for the queens speech, or purely that the people that love them were there on the day, just being with them. Presence rather than Presents. 


This year we will have a 2-and-a-half year old and a 4 month old. I’ve told both sets of grandparents to take what they would spend on my girls and halve it. They don’t need every new toy going, and they certainly don’t need bits and pieces of plastic stocking fillers just to make it feel like they have loads of gifts. They will probably play with the cardboard box for longer anyway!


So here are 3 things to remember when Christmas panics buying sets in:


  1. Children care more about you being there than how much you have spent.
  2. They often have no idea how much things costs or whether something is brand new or second hand. Hello Facebook Sales groups.
  3. The more of it there is, the more of it you have to tidy up at the end of every day!


Merry Christmas!